As a self-proclaimed feminist, I am intrigued that I feel more empowered after getting married recently.
I told myself for years that marriage is just a social construct and we don’t need to succumb to societal norms. People often assumed we were married anyway, so why bother. I shouldn’t throw away a reputation I’ve build over the past 30 years by changing my name.
I still believe all those things, but the truth of the matter is I do feel free-er, more connected, and stronger being married to Rob than I did before.
Maybe it’s because we did it our way – just us on a beach in Australia. Or maybe it’s because it’s easier to conform to society’s norms than to fight them. Or maybe it’s because it was our choice – no one said we had to or that we couldn’t.
I’m not advocating the institution for others and I’m still not sure I’m even a fan. I’m simply reflecting on my experience as part of my self knowing journey. It can be disconcerting when you surprise yourself, but it can also be intriguing.
By the way, I love this article (link below). It offers different perspectives on this issue and in my opinion is very well written by Neel Burton
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201708/feminist-critique-marriage
Fulfilling work 