We live in a social world and we all compare ourselves to others: celebrity images, the talents of co-workers, how we are parented compared with siblings. It’s natural – but we should be aware of the risks such comparisons can bring.
From social psychology there are two main types of social comparison:
Upward Social Comparison:
This is when we compare ourselves with those who we believe are better than us. These upward comparisons often focus on the desire to improve our current status or level of ability. If your abilities do not measure up to your peer’s talents, you might be driven to achieve more and improve your abilities.
Downward Social Comparison:
This is when we compare ourselves to others who are worse at something, or worse off in general, than us. This comparison can make us feel better about ourselves and our situation.
So, what are some of the main risks of comparison:
1. Lower Self-Esteem: Comparing oneself to others can significantly lower self-esteem and reduce overall well-being. This is especially true when the comparison is unfavourable.
2. Risk of Depression: Negative forms of social comparison can increase the risk of depression. This is often the result of upward comparisons, where individuals compare themselves to those they perceive as superior.
3. Promotes Judgmental Attitudes: Social comparison can promote judgmental, biased, and overly competitive or superior attitudes. This can lead to strained relationships and an unhealthy social environment.
4. Negative Impact on Self-Image: Especially with the rise of social media, constant evaluation of oneself versus others can be detrimental to self-esteem, self-image, and overall well-being. It can create a judgmental and competitive outlook.
5. Arrogance or Hostility: Downward social comparison, while it can enhance self-esteem, can also lead to negative consequences such as arrogance or hostility towards others.
Remember, it’s important to focus on self-improvement and personal growth rather than constant comparison with others. Others’ stories may be inspiring but can never really know what’s going on for them. We are all unique and need to tread our own path in life.
Be appropriately cautious of comparing yourself to others.
Further reading
Social Comparison Theory in Psychology (verywellmind.com)
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